Wedding Day=Sense Of Entitlement
Getting married can make people feel like they are entitled to everything and anything. Especially on their special wedding day. For some couples, it’s a time when it becomes acceptable to behave as though they deserve it all!
Even a sweet bride can get testy when stressed. Now imagine a selfish person stressed and you have a Bridezilla or a Groomzilla or both…BrideGroomzilla! Weddings tend to bring out people’s true character. It’s, after all, a defining moment in a person’s life. Couples place so much importance on their wedding day, that it can magnify the stress and the overwhelm.
Through the years of offering wedding packages to couples from around the world, I have witnessed and experienced first hand the rude behaviors that still shock me. The fact that I can still be shocked by couples behavior is in its self a shock. But it continues to happen.
Sense Of Entitlement Consequences
When couples are absorbed in their sense of entitlement they break rules, break the law and do anything that comes into their minds without any thought as to the consequences to those that follow. Sites have been closed to couples due to BrideGroomzilla’s actions. Sites that took years to open to the idea of a small gathering closed in an instance due to the sense of entitlement that couples feel when they do as they please rather than do what was contracted for.
What couples are entitled to, is exactly what they have contracted for. If it wasn’t spelled out or talked about it should not be done until approved by those you have contracted with.
The couple’s real entitlement is to get married, to become husband and wife. That is the focus of the day. The details that were not thought through before your wedding day become the character of the wedding day. Which is the uniqueness of each wedding.
To avoid an overwhelming sense of self-entitlement, consider those that will come after you. How excited they are about their upcoming wedding. Consider the people you have contracted with and the consequences to them as well. Consider for a moment how you may be affecting other couples wedding day. If the site is closed to those that follow, many consequences follow for an extended time.
Focus On The LOVE
Focus on the love between the two of you. With the right amount of self-entitlement, you can build a strong loving relationship and a marriage for a lifetime. In the bigger picture, your life together will share many moments to build memories. Enjoy them.
Sense Of Entitlement
The definition of entitlement is: the feeling or belief that you deserve to be given something (such as special privileges). A sense of entitlement complex is linked with narcissism and borderline personality disorder.
We all suffer from personality flaws in one way or another. But if you tend to show a sense of entitlement, there are ways to work through it to improve yourself and your relationships with those around you. Developing self-awareness may be the first step.